Does this sound like you? You have big dreams, but you constantly put them off. Whether it’s because you’re too busy and there’s never enough time, or you feel stuck in a rut, you may feel a constant yearning to follow your dreams — but never take the first step.
You shouldn’t blame yourself. For women, it can be difficult to believe we deserve to follow our dreams. We are socialized to care emotionally for everyone around us. Many of us carry the belief that we need to be emotional caretakers — we support others instead of work towards what we desire for ourselves.
Thus, we try to keep everybody else happy at the expense of our own happiness.
These compromises show up everywhere. Compromises like wearing something we don’t like to fit in with fashion, or constantly hiding our own feelings for the comfort of family, friends, and loved ones.
It’s not surprising, then, that 1 in 4 women — 25% of us — fight depression.
But you don’t have to give up hope.
How to Take Back Your Life
Unlearning all our ingrained behaviors and relearning helpful ones can be a lifelong process that might require professional help. If you’re interested in learning how to follow your dreams, there are a number of realizations you must first have.
- Understand that your life matters. You are a real, valid human being. Your emotions, thoughts, and opinions do not matter less than those around you. Similarly, your dreams do not matter less than others.
- You have something special to give the world, and it is your duty to do so. Everyone has something of beauty and value to offer the world. Whether it is the fruits of our talents, or your companionship, you should understand that your life is imbued with purpose.
- Follow your dreams without fear or guilt. You’re only bound to this life once. It is your mission to chase your dreams and live a happy, fulfilled life while you still can.
- Start believing in you. The best way to chase your dreams is to believe in yourself as a strong, capable person who is allowed to feel, think, and experience.
As a woman, it can be difficult to start following your dreams. But once you reclaim your purpose and who you are, you can take the first steps to living a more fulfilling, engaging life.